Here is What Separates You From The Masses

Learn Why People Closest To You Can Not See What You Can

You Were Always Considered “Different” and Here’s Why:

   The reason most of your old friends and many in your family can’t “see” what you see, is because their self-image is THE SAME as their experienced reality. (read that again).

   With you, what you see as your self-image, in your head, is ten times bigger than what you are actually experiencing in current time reality. You earn $65k, but you see $400k.

Great people became great because “who” they were in their heads was ten times bigger than what they were doing, and they figured out how to become the self- image that they saw in their heads.

   The contrast then, between both the current “life” and the self-image that you see in your head, is why you can’t stop seeking books and “opportunity” that speak about and use the same language that you are already hearing in your mind.

 Why?

Because you are chasing the SELF that you see within your MIND.

It's 2012, The World is Ending, and I'm Digging a Hole to China to Bury the Words I Can't.

I was just thinking back to the year 2000. Wasn't the world suppose to end due to computers everywhere shutting down, thus rendering all civilization as we know it to stop dead in it's tracks?

Now we have everyone running around like chickens with their heads cut off, worrying about
the next new ending...2012... Heck, I saw the movie. It was really good, but I haven't
lost any sleep over the fact the Mayan calender ends on that day. My google calender
goes to (as Buzz light year would say)... “to infinite and beyond”.
And really, isn't Google like the end all be all of everything now?

Swine flu, bird flu, Mad Cow...what's next?.. Maybe Cats Meow infection??

I'm starting to feel like Rusty Dennis, played beautifully by Cher in the Move “Mask”
back in 1984. If you haven't seen it you really should, here is a clip:

Here is what Rusty Dennis says in the movie: “First you told me he was gonna be retarded, then you told me he was gonna be blind AND deaf. If I'd dug his grave every time one of you geniuses told me he was gonna die, I'd be eating f' in' chop suey in China by now!”

Kind of how I feel with all these new “earth/ civilization” ending situations that come up.
Just one more thing for us to worry about. You know what they say about worry.

“Worry is like a rocking chair--it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.”

Now please don't get me wrong, I know that there are great tragic events that happen in all
of our lives. I have two very close friends, who in the last 2 weeks have (1. Lost a nephew in a tragic accident, and 2. Found out that her brother has a life ending illness). These
are both events that will rock a family, and cause huge ripples through the frame work of ones mind. I'm not saying that these events don't effects us, as they do.

(On a side note however, both of these friends are now experience more love, friendship, and closeness with their families then ever before. They spent christmas together, and shared so much joy. I have seen with my own eyes, one of the husbands change in ways that only an experience like this could trigger. He is more alert, more aware of his family, and more open to others around him. He gave me a half hug.. Pretty HUGE for him)

So maybe a NEW beginning???


This is the way I look at it. An Ending, is just a new beginning.

I read today on Facebook, yes Facebook..
It is quite fun, you should join up.. and follow me when you do.. I'm kind of a big deal. LOL
http://www.facebook.com/ShaneClevenger

Anyway, shameless plug. Back to what I read on Facebook.

“What's cool is that it's ALWAYS the end too. We can close out any past we are not pleased with ANYTIME.”

I read that, and thought.. Exactly.

Everyday, Every moment we get to start a new life, If we choose too. If there is something in our lives that we don't like, we can change it... In an instant.

The cool thing is that we don't have to wait until the end of the year, or a decade to start new goals, or to think of things that we want to accomplish over the next 365 days.
We can do this at anytime.

It is however a wonderful time of year. This is the time where EVERYONE'S thoughts are
to new beginning, and setting goals, and creating a new life for themselves. There is a great atmosphere around us of “New Beginnings”. Join the fun. Set some BIG HAIRY, Fear Eating Goals, and share them with others. Everyone is open to hearing them.
Embrace this time of year, and get together with like minded people.



That being said, I would like to end with this.

Please, don't let other people tell you your dreams are dead. If you listened to everyone in
your life that told you, you weren't good enough, skinny enough, smart enough, etc to
be the person who YOU KNOW YOU ARE INSIDE YOUR HEAD, you are going to prove them right. Listen to "YOU, the Real You" You are an Amazing person.

All a successful person is, is someone who proved to the world that they were the person they knew they were inside their mind. You control your thoughts, which control your actions.
Don't let others ideas of you control your life. Don't let societies fears of gloom and doom fill your mind with worry.

If, like Rusty Dennis you dug a grave every time you heard others tell you “You can't”. Well, their right.. You Can't. If, however you take the shovel, and bury the words “I Can't” Out of your life... OH the Great things you will accomplish.
Think new beginnings, new love, new life, new attitudes.

But hurry, cause we only have until the end of 2012..LOL

With Love and Gratitude,

Big Shane

Battling Words with Friends and the Four Square Mafia- 1 Word That Will Make You a Rock Star With the Iphone Generation

Twitter me this... How much money did you earn on four square yesterday?

Better yet, how many eyeballs have you seen in the last 7 days?

The answer to both those questions for most of us in the Iphone generation is a Big Fat ZERO.

Everywhere I look I see people all around me walking around like zombie drones with their heads down, and their fingers punching away at the newest smart phone, and android app.

It's getting to the point where people aren't even talking to each other anymore, and worse yet our kids are forgetting the lost of art of communication, as they are just texting each other instead of talking face to face. As parents I'm sure we see it (if we have more than one child) that even our kids who are in the (same house- Same rooms) are texting each other or facebooking each other instead of opening their mouths.

Don't get me wrong I love technology, and I use it everyday to enhance my life and my career.

The problem is that we are losing the human touch and the wonderful interaction that has made this world such an amazing place to live in.

Do you want to stand out?

Do you want others to think you are an absolute ROCK STAR?

Do you want to leave a legacy with those you meet?


I'm going to give you ONE WORD that will do all the above and much much more, plus I have a challenge for you..


The one word that will knock the socks off the next person you meet is........Drum roll...

Hello!!!

Yes, I know it sounds too good to be true, but yes...Hello.

I guarantee you that the next time you're in line at the grocery store and while everyone around you is texting away or playing words with friends if you just turn to the person next to you and say hello..... It will knock them out of their shoes.

Why?

No one is talking to each other anymore.

No one is taking any interest in the lives of others.

And the people who start to pay attention and talk to people are going to be the ones that will
be remembered.

Ask questions, get excited about meeting people.

But Shane, wont people think I'm weird??

Hell yes some will think your weird.....So what!!!

I've never met anyone who was over the top happy, or successful who wasn't a little weird.

Who cares if a few think your weird, as there will be some who will absolutely love you.

I challenge you to look people in the eyes, put down your phone and say hi and I promise you
your life will change and you will also change the lives of those around you.

Many Blessings ,

"Big" Shane Clevenger

100 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife HER Way - Some Things for me to work on ;)

Discuss this list with your wife. Ask her to check the ones meaningful to her, and then have her arrange them in the order she considers important. Use this list to learn what speaks “love” to her. It’s most likely very different from what speaks “love” to you.

1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.
2. Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.
3. Communicate with her instead of talking AT her or shutting her out emotionally.
4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.
5. Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.
6. Show interest in her friends and give her time to be with them.
7. Do something active together to lift her spirit —even taking a walk hand-in-hand.
8. Express to her that you need and value her.
9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it.
10. Find something that makes you laugh together.
11. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.
12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.
13. Try not to make sudden changes without discussing them with her first.
14. Show interest in that which she values as important in her life.
15. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.
16. When you feel you must correct her, be gentle —speaking the truth in LOVE. Allow her to teach you things without being defensive.
17. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
18. Show her that she matters more to you than any activity you could do, or any one you could be with, that somehow threatens her sense of security in your marriage.
19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.
20. Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together.
21. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.
22. Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward).
23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.
24. Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven).
25. Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas life.
26. Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with her—not taking her for granted.
27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that!
28. Defend her to others—especially to your family.
29. Don’t belittle her intelligence.
30. Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her neck—whatever she’d prefer.
31. Get up in the middle of the night (letting her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child.
32. Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.
33. When you’ve been apart for a time and she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” — actually give her details.
34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.
35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
36. Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.
38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.
39. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention whenever possible.
40. Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.
41. Stay away from web sites, chat rooms or anything that gives you sexual gratification from anyone other than your wife.
42. Be helpful and cooperative, both before, and during the time you have other people over to your home. (If you’re not sure what to do, just say to your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)
43. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.
45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.
47. Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.
48. Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.
49. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
50. Be an involved partner and father in helping her with the children and spending time together.
51. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.
52. Be supportive. Help her to finish her education and goals that are important to her.
53. View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”
54. Run errands without complaining.
55. Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.
56. Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.
57. Sit close to her —even when you are just watching television.
58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
59. Show her you are her marital partner by not making plans without her knowing and agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise for her).
60. Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
61. Keep her trust at all costs. Leave no gray area when it comes to other female relationships, money and your word. (Dave Ramsey)
62. Surprise her by asking her to give you a list of 3 things she’d like done around the house within the next month. And then make it your goal to do them.
63. Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
64. Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
65. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).
66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
67. Keep yourself in as good of shape as is reasonable so she’s proud to be with you.
68. Make it a point to write a mission statement together for your marriage and family.
69. Take the time to touch every day—even if it’s only for a minute or two.
70. Be polite and kind. (Often we’re kinder to strangers than we are to our spouse.)
71. Be sensitive enough to ask her if you offend or hurt her sexually in any way.
72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over everyone else.
73. Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.
74. Continue to court her. You dated her before you married which helped you to fall in love, now date her to STAY in love.
75. Be careful to choose your words, especially when angry.
76. Show affection for her in front of friends.
77. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.
78. Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
79. Make sure she has money each paycheck to spend any way she would choose.
80. Hold her close and vocally express your love and care for her when she is hurt, discouraged, or burdened.
81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).
83. Don’t tease and belittle her, saying “I was just joking” when she doesn’t find it funny.
84. Allow her to express herself freely, without fear of being called illogical or dumb.
85. Don’t forget to hold her hand in public like you used to when you dated her.
86. Don’t criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity in tact.
87. Don’t focus on the physical features of another woman (because, whether you understand her reasoning or not, that can make your wife feel dishonored).
88. Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.
90. Fix dinner for her sometimes.
91. Be sympathetic when she’s sick—and help her however you can.
92. Let her sleep in once in a while and you get the children ready for the day.
93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
94. Don’t ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.
95. Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she’s wanted done.
96. Tell her (and show her) you love her often.
97. Call, email or text her during the day when you are apart from each other so she knows you are thinking of her.
98. Surprise her by suggesting you go to a marriage seminar or weekend retreat together to draw even closer in your marital relationship.
99. Express your love and appreciation for her in a love note which you give to her.
100. Show her affection without sexual intentions.

Storage Wars, Dave Hester and the Yuuuuupies of Entitlement Kicking the Pants Off of Rocky Balboa????

 For those of you who don't know who Dave Hester or the Storage Wars is, it is one of my sinful obsessions

that I like to watch on TV. Its a half hour a week of Glutony for me and yes I find it fun, and some what inspiring.

The premise is about a group of people in southern california who make their living buying old abandoned storage lockers and selling the items to collectors, and the like. Apparantly once someone who rents a storage unit stops paying the owner of the facility has the right to sell of the items to collect the debt owed to them, and some of the things found are quite valuable (for instance gold coins, baseball cards, and some weird old pool cue holders made in the 1700's).


 

One of the main characters of the show is a hard-nosed entreprenuer named Dave Hester. One of his catch phrases when he bids on the auctioned items is to yell out a loud "YUUUUUUUUP", so you can hear us every tuesday night in my house yelling "YUUUUUUUUUP as we hang out with the family.. It's kind of catchy.


 

Dave began his journey into buying storage lockers after he was ordered to work community service at a 2nd hand store after his DUI arrest. Shortly after he lost his father, and vowed he would become a success, and thus named his 2nd hand store "Rags to Riches" in honor of his father who worked hard all his life, but was never able to attain any kind of success. 


 

I have to believe he is a good egg, and I know he is smart enough to play the role of the bad guy in order to get the buzz going. Hester has spun off from his store and has now started his own auction house to cash in on the millions of eyes that watch him every week.....Very smart.


 

Just recently it has been reported that Dave Hester is telling the show that he needs to earn more money from the show or he is leaving the highly rated TV show. In the back of my mind I have to wonder whether or not this is part of the diabolicle mind of Dave Hester as a way to draw more attention to himself.. again, very clever.


 

JUST REMEMBER- EVERYTHING IS MARKETING!!


 

I jumped over to Hester's facebook page yesterday, and posted simple statement:

It was something I felt I had to share, and ask as I just saw this manuever on his part as a bit of lunacy. It's my belief that I would do this show for FREE if I was able to put myself out there to the millions and millions of people who would see my ugly mug on a weekly basis.


 

Some of the post that followed on Facebook were expected, but some really threw me for a loop.

I began to read as people were telling me that Dave was entitled to more profits from the show, that the show was making millions off of his name, and that they had no right to not give him the money that he deserved. They stated that without him the show would be boring, etc, etc, etc.


 

Now, don't get me wrong I have no doubt that Dave Hester makes storage wars a fun and interesting thing to watch and a great escape for me for 1/2 hour of each week.....BUT.....

And it's a BIG BUT......

No one Owes Dave Hester, You or me ANYTHING.

In this new economy it is so vitaly important that we treat ourselves as a brand, and to take our own lives into our own hands.

The Government, the CEOS, and those around you are not responsible for your payday, or for your living a better life. YOU are the only one who can control the outcome of your life. As long as you believe that ANYTHING outside of yourself owes you something, or is responsible for your success or failure you will be forever lost in the Dollar Dance of entitlement that is ruining our great country. The second you look in the mirror, and ask what can I do to get better, that is the second your life will change....for the better.

OK RANT OVER.. Back to my point.

Dave Hester is an entreprenuer who is on a TV show, that no matter how popular it is is going to be cancelled sometime in the future...its just how TV works. Long after the TV show ends....Dave Hester and his business will continue to run and need to put food on his families table.

This is the same with you. No matter how great your company is, or how profitable it is now, there is always a chance that it will go away, and you will go on.

This is why its important that you take 100% responsibility for you, your income, your thoughts, and your actions to ensure that no outside force will ever have control of your life EVER AGAIN.


 

We as individuals (I believe) will never be able to change the system, but we can change ourselves. Dave can use this amazing platform, and build his brand and create businesses, charitable organizations, etc and absolutely change the fabric of his life without ever recieving another penny from the show. Dave can't change the producers of the show....but he can change himself. He can't change the advertisers, but he can start to brand and advertise himself.

Reminds me of the story of Sylvestor Stallone, and Rocky-

From Wikipedia-

"On March 24, 1975, Stallone saw the Muhammad Ali–Chuck Wepner fight, which inspired the foundation idea of Rocky. That night Stallone went home, and after three days,^[19] 20 straight hours^[15] he had written the script for Rocky. After that, he tried to sell the script with the intention of playing the lead role.^[10] Robert Chartoff and Irwin Winkler in particular liked the script.^{[citation needed]} Stallone was offered increasingly larger fees to sell the script and allow a different actor to star in the film, but he turned the offers down until the studio agreed to let Stallone himself play the role.^[10] Rocky was nominated for ten Academy Awards, including Best Actor and Best Original Screenplay nominations for Stallone. The film went on to win the Academy Awards for Best Picture, Best Directing and Best Film Editing.^[20]"


 

An interesting note about the story above is that Stallone was finally offered about a million dollars for his script if somone else could play the starring role. Stallone new the importance of his brand, his legacy and not just a one time payday. He knew that he would have to live on after Rocky, and that his life would be transformed by his role. He turned down the money, so that he could play the lead role to which he was paid the actors minimum for (about $2,000 a week).

On the contrary Chuck Wepner, who the story was written was offered either a 6% cut of the movie or just under $100,000 for his story. Chuck Wepner took the upfront money, and in doing so gave up a 8 million dollar payday over the life of the rocky movies....We all know who Sly Stallone is, but I bet you would be hard pressed to meet anyone who knows who Chuck Wepner is.



 

Dave Hester needs to look at the long term effect of all the FREE exposure he is getting every week, and look for ways to great a legacy that will outlive the show. His answer to his success is not in his upfront contract, nor is it in the producers of the show.

His success like our success is hidden right where we can all find it....deep within ourselves.

"Big" Shane Over and Out

 

 

 

 

 

5 HABITS THAT CAN DESTROY YOUR LIFE

"Big Shane here..... Here is a list of 5 Habits that I absolutely believe will DESTROY Your Life.

1. QUIT Watching Television - #1 Killer of Success & Happiness (Avg Family watches 30 hours of TV per week! Turn it off. Break this habit! 2 hours per day
working your business is only 12 hours per week.

2. QUIT Complaining - The type of people you want to attract are not
complainers. Complainers drive people away. Don't be one.
If you are one it could be why your business is not growing.   Kill this habit NOW!

3. QUIT beating yourself up - Rather than being upset with yourself
for not doing it, just start doing it! Most of the depression and bad thoughts in my life have stemmed from me not being the person I knew I was in my head, and not taking the actions I promised myself I would take. Start today to BE-DO and you will HAVE. 

4. QUIT blaming your circumstances, the economy or your dog (anyone, but you) for your lack of success. In the words of one of my mentors Kody, 'You either fly or you die' Eagle's don't have a choice if they want to thrive. They MUST fly or they die.

5. QUIT quitting - You won't be successful sitting on the fence. It actually can be quite painful. Are you in or are you out?? Are you quitting on your family, your business, yourself??  The biggest "quit" is the number of times you 'question' yourself because you doubt whether you can do it. This is the same as quitting on yourself. Stop it! 

Doubting yourself is not a formula for success . . . another reason
why personal development is so important. Stop quitting on yourself. Break this habit NOW! It doesn't serve you. You'll have good days and bad days.
Its part of life. Its not a reflection on you. Keep falling
forward and embrace the ups and the downs.

"Big" Shane

 

Will Work for Food and the Resume Dollar Dance

It's my 36th birthday, and I feel like Im transformed. I feel so alive and I want to share my new manifesto... The Resume Dollar Dance

It's a Part of All of Our Lives.

We've all done it.

We walked into a plush office, with high hopes, and we push that little piece of paper in front of the hiring manager, and in three little words utter "please pay me".

I liken it to the guy on the corner with a sign that says "will work for food".

 Its the same dollar dance we all live in.

Our Babies....little johnny, and little Jill need food.... and the lights need to stay on.

 Sooooo......

Please let me work for you.... Pretty please with sugar on top, and oh yes will you please pay my light bill.

There is a better way. WE all need income, but.......

 My dream for you is that you'll never have to play the resume dollar dance.

My dream for you is that you become bigger and become better than a job.

My dream for you is that you become who you want to become.

Do what you wanna do and build yourself up an indispensable brand, so that no job, no career, and no down economy will EVER HOLD YOU PRISONER..EVER AGAIN.

 My dream for you is that you'll become more than just your resume.

You will be judged by your character, and by the leader that you have become.

My dream is that together we can create a community and a  society of people that will come together and support each other in entrepreneurship so that we can create our own economy.

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Let's grow together, Let's Dream together, and Let's Get Better Together.
Your Life Will Get Better When You Get Better.

"Big" Shane Clevenger